Fear, we have all felt it. Increased heart rate, rapid shallow breathing. You feel a tremor in your hands and the temperature seems to rise. Your palms become clammy and you can feel a bead of sweat forming on your brow..
Arrgghh! It’s enough to make you run and hide. Turn on your heels and go back to whence you came!
Of course fear is a natural survival instinct. If you are about to fall off a ten story building or get run over by a bus, you very much want to feel scared enough to take immediate action and get yourself to safety.
Fear is also that little voice that tells you not to walk down dark alleys by yourself at night or to accept drinks from strangers when you’re out having fun.
What I want to talk about however is the fear that stops us from doing what we really want to do. The fear that stops us from being who we really want to be.
Have you ever thought that you would really love to learn a new skill, hobby or activity but were scared that you’d look silly because you didn’t know what you were doing?
Perhaps you want to learn to surf, sing or draw?
Look for a class, take some lessons, find a tutor.
Maybe you want to start a new sport but feel like you wont be as good as the people already in the team?
Get some coaching, join in on some training sessions. Start practicing at home or with a friend.
Scared to go and talk to that person in case they reject you?
Talk to them anyway. If they reject you then guess what? They obviously aren’t meant to be in your life so move on and let them go. Make way for the people who are meant to be in your life.
Want to start your own business but you’re scared because you don’t know where to start?
Speak to other business owners and people who are already successfully doing what you want to do. Do your research, prepare yourself with information. Once you start looking you will find more and more information and ideas to get you going.
So here’s the thing – If you don’t ask the answer will always be no. If you don’t start you wont get going. If you don’t practice you’ll never get any better. If you don’t get out there and do it you’ll always be wondering what if!
Maybe you will have a go at something and fail! Arrggh! Oh No! Run, hide, pop a bag over your head! Or… just pick yourself up, smile and carry on.
Go and do something you know you are good at so you remember you are more than that thing that didn’t just work out. Have a think about whether you can try again having gained the experience of what didn’t work for you last time.
Perhaps you’ll decide that you want to try something else instead. Talk to people, be honest about what you want to achieve and what you’re struggling with. You’ll be surprised to find how others have been through what you are going through. You will find out how much people love to help, and even if they can’t help chances are they know someone who can.
The truth is no one is really studying you that closely to see whether you fail or not. Everyone is too busy worrying about themselves and what they want from life to be bothered focusing on something that you just did that didn’t work out how you wanted it to. They probably didn’t even realize that you failed. After all, reality is a very individual experience. The world is viewed from many different perspectives.
And another thing, if someone wants to take delight in pointing out what’s wrong with you or what you’re doing, it says a whole heap more about them than it does about you!
So whatever you do, take action! Get out there, explore what you want to explore. Learn what you want to learn. Be who you want to be!
Life is for living, get excited and give it a red hot crack. You just never know, you might actually be awesome at it! You may well start doing something that you become so good at, others want to do it like you! You may find your passion! You may find a whole new group of people who support and inspire you!
The possibilities are endless but one thing is for sure, you will be taking charge of your life. No matter how little that first step is, take it. It may seem a little scary to start but..
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway!